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Leadership Skills

Continuing with our previous discussion on leadership, we talked about ‘command and collaborate’ style of leadership. Though these are contradictory terms, but today’s leader has the skill to be flexible and adapt to the situation to achieve the common goal of the group/followers.

The most important in the list of leadership skills is knowing that there is no leader without followers. Thus remember the followers and the reason why they chose to follow you–was it your charisma? or the commonality between your and their goal? or your leadership style? Remembering your followers will help you be an adept leader.leadership skills

The goal–What was the goal which you set out to achieve? The vision that you built–be it as a student, as a competitor, as a parent, as an employee or as an employer–you should be working towards your goal achievement. While it may also happen that once you’ve achieved a particular goal, your role as a leader diminishes or importance reduces, thus you have to create new common goals as well as keep yourself and others motivated.

The way to achievement. Your actions as a leader set an example for your current and future followers. As they say, the journey is as important as the destination, similarly, the manner in which you achieve your goal is as important as the goal itself.

Become an aware leader. Not everyone can become a successful leader. Good leadership skills include the fact that a leader doesn’t always makes the right choice or decision; but leadership skills include capability to identify and accept whether it was the right or wrong decision for the achievement of the goal.

 

 

Culture and Child Development

Culture is most commonly defined as set of ideas, behaviours, values, beliefs, traditions and attitudes that exist and are followed by large group of people usually living in a similar society, in a given time frame and coming in contact with similar circumstances. ‘ Cultural Values’ as we refer to it are usually passed on from generation to generation. They become the typical means in which we give upbringing to our children.

Any society undergoes a cultural shift from time to time, specially with changes in technology and mobilisation of parents. For example, you may have noticed that parents who have moved out of the country because of their jobs or have chosen to immigrate, their children usually follow the cultural norms of the adopted country/city but at home they are taught the same values as their parents have been. With internet being accessible, smart phones, play stations etc. one can notice that the playing behaviour of children has changed over time and just over one generation; and because of the exposure, children are ‘growing up faster’, and by that I mean they are becoming more mature in some ways and losing out on learning on others. Thus culture and child development are closely related.Culture

Cultural bearings also have an important effect on the communication skills and communication patterns of children. By this, we don’t only refer to the language they speak, but also the non verbal language and the nuances and acceptable and unacceptable behaviours and words. The intrinsic attitude that is imbibed during communication with others is loaded with the culture the speaker has learnt. The interpretation by the receiver is also unconsciously affected by the cultural background. Thus there will always be some loss of message unless we form strict rules or become part of the same organization and learn the new ‘sub-culture’.

It becomes important to have preadolescents and adolescents become aware about how culture affects their self concept. There is an important link between self and culture. It plays an important role in formation of self identity and attributes. Children are born with no culture at all. It is when they come in contact with the social surroundings as they grow up, they learn to define their world, and thus culture and place themselves in this world, forming their self concept and identity.

Culture comprises of a lot of symbols–like language, traditions etc. Culture, its meaning and understanding–the immediate environment, the geographical and then the concepts that are taken as universal are pivotal and affect development of emotions, behaviour patterns, thought patterns, decision making capabilities leadership skills and  long term visions and trajectories as well as self esteem and formation of self.

At Smart Shrubs, we understand how important this is in a child’s development. Thus we focus on the overall theme of culture and help our participants understand the essence and fundamentals so that their mind becomes free of the shackles and they reach a stage of self development from where they can make fair choices.

Education, Creativity & Personality Development

_DSC0285 (1)I was just watching a Ted Talk by Seth Godin how on schools have been following the decades of training procedures. It is interesting to note that he starts with a simple pleasantry “Good Morning”–something that children all over the world are taught by teachers and trainers alike in all schools–be it a public school, a private institution or a government funded NGO run initiative. While there is nothing wrong in exchanging a simple “good morning”; what Godin very subtly pointed out was that the training and conditioning to follow a structure and a methodology starts right from beginning.

He uses the analogy “industry products” –children across are being taught what different industries expect them to know and learn when they go on to make their careers and take up jobs. They are given an incentive called “salary”, which keeps them motivated enough to follow the instruction. Yet, at the same time, there is also an expectation to do something different and stand out from the crowd. But how do we expect our children to do both? Aren’t we confusing them?  Aren’t we killing their creativity?

No doubt that the most important years of education are the school years. We entrust in schools that they will provide the best of education to our children, make them creative and finally aid in personality development by equipping them with Life skills. These life skills and personality will finally help them achieve and be successful in their professional and personal lives.

At the same time, the very same schools are not providing their students a platform to grow and learn. How much of openness to experience are they taught? How self aware are the students? Aren’t most of the students following a trend instead of setting one? Do they have a will-to-meaning?

Teachers have a very important role to play in student’s personality. They are becoming more aware and realizing that instead of being trainers, they need to become coaches and facilitators. They have to coach students into becoming life long learners, who are not the industry kids but give way to their creativity. Students should be given an opportunity to build something interesting. A great performance in school or grades does not necessarily lead to success and happiness. It is the association with something interesting.

As Godin puts it, children should be coached to connect and not collect. It is this collaboration, connection, interest that will shape their personality into becoming happier and successful.

 

Leadership

When asked to define Leadership, Peter Drucker famously said, “management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things”. The most successful leaders have a vision and an insight into the needs of the environment. But what is the right recipe of a successful leader? None. Every child has a unique personality that gives an ability to perceive the environment from a certain vantage point. When we can develop is the self awareness, social awareness and how to make effective use of communication and personality capabilities.

There are many different leadership styles. Each style will be most appropriate for different audiences, followers and situations. The goal is the most important for an effective leader. To achieve the goal successfully, it is as important that the trajectory for the achievement of growth path is right.LEadership

Most recently, researchers have pointed out that while at one end of the spectrum lies having complete authority and control over people and situation, the other end signifies too much of freedom to followers (which often leads to chaos). There needs to be a balance on this spectrum and what is known as command and collaborate style of leadership. Command and collaborate are contradictory terms,  but each leader today needs to engage in both. According to the situation, there must be a flexibility to either become a hard wired, authoritative leader who resolves the problem and presents the solution, collaboration would entail brain storming and being a good listener to reach the most creative solution to any problem and taking the final decision.

Leaders must be consistent with their espoused values and visible traits. Successful leaders need to have a balance EQ, SQ and IQ. A good leader would work on his/her strengths and accept weak points, so that the followers or the group fill the gaps.

Leadership can be learnt and trained. A good leadership is not only needed during corporate situation, but every day life. Communication, collaboration, persistence, commitment, self awareness and motivation are some of the leadership traits that, when acquired at the right age, lead to a more effective leadership personality.