Remembered happiness is different from experienced happiness.
Happiness is mostly the ultimate goal of each individual. But the question is what makes us happy? or what is it about happiness that it becomes such an important goal? in the meanwhile, we usually focus on something that is lacking, or misery or something which is causing us grief. If our goal is to attain maximum happiness, then why do we get attracted towards the negative? It is equally (if not more) important to focus on the strengths and building them and ultimately having engaged and fulfilling lives. This is the focus of science of positive psychology.
Knowing what is one’s biggest strength and then building upon it, planning your life so that you are able to utilize it to the maximum potential will provide you with constant flow of happiness. Pursuit of meaning and pursuit of engagement, thus become important for a fulfilling life.
But can being happy be learnt? One might suppose no! But researches have found that happiness is an emotion that one also synthesizes–a concept known as Synthetic Happiness. According to Daniel Gilbert, a Harvard psychologist who has done immense research on happiness and optimism, synthetic happiness can very much be a learned concept. And it is no less than natural happiness. For his research findings, view the groundbreaking research talk on
So far, there are various ways to learn to be happy! Just as there is learned helplessness, there is learned happiness. Happier people have been found to be much more successful and leading more fulfilling lives including being more successful in their relationships across!
This also requires a change in perspective and is no doubt contingent on the environment and other cultural factors! But nevertheless, there is a chance to make your child less prone to anxiety and fear, and more prone to happiness and a whole life!