Series of Stress Management in Children–Post 1
Stress is one of the most commonly words used in everyday conversations today. While, we understand that there are work pressures to deal with, bosses, estimated time of deliveries to be made–we underestimate the amount of pressure and ‘stress’ our children are in. Well some parents choose to remain in denial, some feel that they are doing their best to keep their children away from it, and some actually take some concrete actions consciously about it.
As parents, there is a lot that you can do. We know its easier said than done, but never the less, it has to be done. Factors such as parenting stress, moods, family functioning system, locus of control (of both parents and children) and most important parenting styles have immense effect on the amount of stress that children go through. As much as you, as parents, feel pressured about your children’s upbringing, values, grades, competitions and future success,your children think about these and many other environmental stimuli that they come in contact with every day. Such as peer pressure, school environment, competing, bullying, winning and the tremendous amount of learning that they are going through every single minute so rapidly. Children have to cope with all of this as well. The idea here is to make you take a minute, empathise, put yourselves in their places and without thinking that they are just children, try to focus and identify their stressors.
In the next few posts, we will help you with this ever-persistent thought about stress management in children.
Lets start from the first step. Spend a little well actually alot of quality time with your child to identify what are her/his main stressors. For some it can be grades, for some it can be winning/losing (be it in academics or sports), and for many others it can be peer pressure and coping with the every evolving technology that they need and want to know everything to ‘be cool’ in the friends’ group.
Once you have identified them, see if you could talk to them about it. Say a decently serious and light (so not to scare them off!) discussion for yourself to understand the importance of that stressor. Realise how important it is and how much of psychological energy of your child is being expended in trying to cope with it or take care of it.
Take this first step and we will help you in the next series of posts in how to deal with them effectively before they start having a negative impact on your child’s personality development. And when we say ‘negative’, we mean act as a hindrance in a positive psychological growth.