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Leadership Skills

Continuing with our previous discussion on leadership, we talked about ‘command and collaborate’ style of leadership. Though these are contradictory terms, but today’s leader has the skill to be flexible and adapt to the situation to achieve the common goal of the group/followers.

The most important in the list of leadership skills is knowing that there is no leader without followers. Thus remember the followers and the reason why they chose to follow you–was it your charisma? or the commonality between your and their goal? or your leadership style? Remembering your followers will help you be an adept leader.leadership skills

The goal–What was the goal which you set out to achieve? The vision that you built–be it as a student, as a competitor, as a parent, as an employee or as an employer–you should be working towards your goal achievement. While it may also happen that once you’ve achieved a particular goal, your role as a leader diminishes or importance reduces, thus you have to create new common goals as well as keep yourself and others motivated.

The way to achievement. Your actions as a leader set an example for your current and future followers. As they say, the journey is as important as the destination, similarly, the manner in which you achieve your goal is as important as the goal itself.

Become an aware leader. Not everyone can become a successful leader. Good leadership skills include the fact that a leader doesn’t always makes the right choice or decision; but leadership skills include capability to identify and accept whether it was the right or wrong decision for the achievement of the goal.

 

 

Stress Management in Children

Stress Management in Children-Series 2 

Hopefully, you have completed your exercise in which we asked you to identify the most common stressors for your children.

Let us answer why this was important? Stress in general is a state which hampers our daily functioning. This might be minute or major depending upon the trauma and the importance of the stimuli which has triggered stress or the environmental situation that acts as a precipitating factor. A lot of times, you may not see its direct symptoms–this is not to say that stress is missing.stress management in children 2

While thats the negative, there is also a concept known as ‘EU Stress‘–that a little bit of stress helps in increasing the performance (be it in sports, examination, a social situation etc.) But when its persistent and starts interfering with our psychological well being (whether we realize it or not), that is when it starts leading to a state which we all know as ‘burnout’ i.e. all our resources–both physical and psychological have depleted in trying to cope with stress.

In children, you may see symptoms such as stomach ache, headache, lack of concentration, distraction, irritability, mood changes or any other non-regular psychological or physiological changes.

Once you have identified the important stressors for your child, you have to start working towards developing a healthy coping mechanism/strategy. Each child is different, will show different signs, will react differently to different situations and stressors in a given environment.

Spend time with your child and develop this mechanism. For example, if it is always about winning in sports or competitions or getting straight A grades? Then your answer lies in re-visit your parenting style. Are you emphasizing too much on competing? Do you only reward when you child wins and react negatively at losing? Is your child constantly worried about the consequences if she/he is not able to win?

Stress management is really not that difficult or scary if planned properly. An early learning in stress management in children, helps them define and develop their own coping mechanisms. This in turn, leads to effective management and coping with stressors and identifying precipitating factors in adulthood. Start early, even if it is a small situation (which by the way might be big for your child!), for effective personality development.